Reignite Your Dreams!!

Have You allowed your dreams to die?  Do you feel like it's too late in life to accomplish what's really in your heart? Well it's NOT too late!!

It's alright to dream.  In fact I encourage you to dream!

Recently I posted the above video of a woman in Texas who has a 3,000 square foot closet.  The closet is three levels and full of the finest garments, shoes, handbags and jewelry.

My intention in posting the video was to encourage women to dream about more.

Her closet was definitely larger than most people's houses but hey, it's what she likes and who am I to say what she can and cannot have?  That's not my place.  Listen, you may never want a closet that big. I just wanted to show people the possibilities.  Honey, some of these folks were NOT ready!!!
In my intention to stimulate people's imaginations I immediately started receiving such comments as:




That's too much!  She is ridiculous!!!

I'm concerned about her spiritual stand with God.

Too many possessions is sin.

I would never have a closet that big with all the homeless people in this world! 


What?!!  People, you're missing the point!  They questioned the woman's spiritual position, her morals and even her stand with God.  Really?  The balance in dreaming is that we need to be ready for more yet grateful for what we currently have.

The comments became so much about their personal preferences being placed on that particular woman that it led to a debate about God's desires for people and overindulgence.

They missed the entire purpose of the post.  I nicely went through the feed since it had taken a "hard left" (another term for off the subject) and deleted all comments about God and God's plan for those with money... The essence of their comments was "If a person has money they clearly are not in a close relationship with God."  Now if I were to interpret their comments as the expression of the negative root emotional relationship they have with money/abundance they would automatically deny it because it sounds judgmental when it's placed before you so plainly.

What was even more shocking is that the very people who judged this lady based on a 3-minute showcase video are the same ones who believe God has divine plans for them that include wealth, abundance and more.

Not judging simply reflecting some root areas within us that must be honestly dealt with before we can truly walk into the life we have been believing for for soooooooo many years.  I leave you with this one phrase I always share with my friends: "YOU CAN NOT HAVE WHAT YOU DESPISE."

Many people will have to sit with this post for a minute and examine their own hearts.  For once I'm asking you to truly examine your relationship with abundance/money before you comment about this post.  I may respond and I may not... But this is one space where you are free to express your view and it will NOT be deleted.

I encourage you to dream.  Or as my business coach Zenovia Andrews says, "Dare to Dream!"  It doesn't hurt you in the least to envision a brighter, wealthier, more spiritual life than the one you have currently.

It is not sin to attain wealth.
It is alright to dream!
It is your birthright to possess everything that belongs to you!

Need help stimulating your imagination?
Meet me in Detroit, Michigan for the Generation 2 Generation Growth Weekend http://eveningwithDrJeri or
Catch me at Zenobia Andrews' Dare to Dream 2015 Tour in Charlotte, North Carolina  www.dare2dreamtour.biz

Until next time.  Be Awesome!

When to Move On in a Relationship

Spring is in the air and we all know what that means, as the flowers blossom so do our love relationships.

Love is always fun.  Well, it should be anyway.   It never ceases to amaze me how ladies fail to trust their own gut when it comes to romantic relationships.  Sometimes we want to be in a relationship so badly that we forfeit our personal needs just to say we are "in a relationship."

Spring is in the air and the warmer the weather becomes the more those of you without a "Boo" will long to be "Boo'd up."   There is absolutely nothing wrong with being in a relationship but your goal should be to connect with someone who is also attracted to you.

We live in a time when people don't like reading so I decided to share a short video to help women understand men.  Take a look...

I will be rolling out more videos about relationships and dating.  To stay up to date on what's going on with me visit www.drjeridyson.com and sign up for my mailing list.  Talk to you soon!

Four Ways to Avoid Self-Sabotage

Happy New Year, blog family!

I'm certain you have prepared your resolutions and goals for 2015 like so many others.  Before you start working towards manifesting those goals I want to share a few tips that will keep you on the right track.  In previous blogs/podcasts I discussed ways to write your goals and keep them measurable.  (Click this audio link http://www.blogtalkradio.com/drjerispeaks/2011/01/08/new-year-new-you-how-to-keep-those-ridiculous-resolutions for details on setting measurable goals at the beginning of the year. )  This time I thought I would give my readers the four obstacles to avoid self-sabotage this year.  Self-sabotage is doing the very thing that prevents you from moving forward to your next big thing be it romantically, fiscally, vocationally or any other "ly" you can think of.  It's time to set goals and reach them.   

Did you know you can actually trick yourself into thinking you're achieving what you set out to achieve when your actions are taking you further away from what you are supposed to be doing?  Yep.  It's possible to work hard and fool yourself away from your predestined path. Here are a few examples:

  

1. Helping a friend with their noble cause!  I can not begin to tell you how many people will call on you to help them complete their project.  Don't get me wrong I wholeheartedly believe in the ministry of helps but at what cost?  You can not afford to pour your all into another person's vision only to be left too exhausted to complete your mission.  You will need to temper yourself when it comes to volunteering for other's missions.  Even if it's a paid agreement remember balance is the key to happiness.  When it's all said and done that good feeling of helping another in their life's dream will be fast fading when you realize their dreams are manifesting while yours are at a stand still.

2. Opting for quantity over quality. People spend too much effort trying to connect with people who don't want to stay connected to them.  My sister, Sheila and I were talking this weekend about her family's business.  During her training she would stress to their service providers the importance of giving perks to your most valued and loyal clients - similar to a points program for airlines and hotels.  She said there are two types of clients/customers.  The first is the one who has no commitment to you or your business. They want the most stuff for the cheapest price and will give you the hardest time in servicing them.  The second customer is the faithful customer who appreciates your service/work and will maintain a working relationship with you over time.  All you need to do is produce quality work in a timely manner and they will be happy.  These are the same ones who will refer others to your business. Always invest your time, talents and business perks in the second group.  Stop investing your creativity and money to capture the hearts of people who don't value what you uniquely bring to their life.   

3. Allowing life's dark moments to distract you.  Each of us will experience setbacks, disappointments, breakdowns and upsets from time to time.  These lows are never cause to abort the plan altogether.  We all need varying amounts of time to get ourselves together, re-strategize and heal but don't lose yourself during those down times.  By all means take some time out but never use that at a sign to stop pursuing your passion.  

4. Being too available!  TIME management is your most valuable asset.  Since I have resigned from my full-time job people have it in their heads that I can sit and chit-chat with them any time they feel they need to reach out.  Not so!!!!  When you own your own business it is mandatory that you value your time like you did when you were working for another company.   "If you're not in the habit of treating your business like a true business everyone else will treat it like a hobby," paraphrased from my business coach Zenovia Andrews.  Offer people a time slot and stick to that time.  The best way to lose track and miss your goals is to allow people to infringe upon your work time.  Sure I understand that your life's work may be fun and pleasurable but it's still your work.   I don't care if you're meditating, exercising, doing research, meeting on a conference call, eating lunch or finger painting!  It's your time.   Create a schedule and stick with it.  Many of the wealthiest people I know maintain strict calendars.  Time is something you can't recover so don't waste it.

Visit me at www.drjeridyson.com and let me know which one you may have the most challenge with this year.  I promise to help you be accountable in accomplishing your goals for 2015!  See you at the finish line.  

   

My Leap of Faith

Launching out into my Faith Walk has been a rather enjoyable journey for me. This Fall I resigned from my full time clinical position as a medical physician at a prestigious institution.  I knew my time on that job was coming to a close and once I resigned the most amazing thing happened.  I was invited by the U.S. State Department as their international guest speaker for the South Pacific Islands!!  The timing of the invitation was surreal.  I had no idea this invitation would present itself when it did.  The exact day I made a decision to step down was the same day I received their verbal invitation.

Thirty days after my resignation I was flying to Suva, Fiji and Port Moresby, Papua New Guinea (PNG) to launch my global speaking tour.  During my travels I also visited Brisbane, Australia and Tokyo, Japan.  My intended audience was adolescents (teens and young adults) but by the time the tour ended there were more adults in the room than adolescents.   The tour's theme was "Find Your Voice & Activate Your Life!"

Our timing of the tour could not have been any better!  I was invited by the U.S. Embassies there to speak during three major events: 16 Days of Activism, Day of Tolerance and World AIDS Day. Each observation important on its own yet delicately relevant to the others. (If you are like I was with little knowledge of the first two I encourage you to look them up.)

As I journeyed to the other side of the  world an extraordinarily long way from home: 24 hours from Los Angeles, 6 hours from Singapore, 2 hours from Cairns, off Australia's northern coast I realized one thing; the women of these countries needed the same things all humans need. To be acknowledged
To be heard
To have folks listen open heartedly without judgement.

Throughout my two week tour I was given the opportunity to speak to hundreds of school aged youth during my visits in Fjij and PNG.  I visited secondary schools, colleges, a shelter for battered women, held meetings with governmental officials, educators and community leaders. I even toured the women's facilities at their regional prison and spoke for and with the inmates. 

Although my trip had a dark subject matter from time to time I couldn't help but be excited about the futures of these young people.  What encouraged me most were the hundreds of younger women who were eager for empowerment and the young men willing to aid them in their quest for change.   To say I was blessed with the opportunity to speak life into the next generation of world changers is an understatement.

Typically a more reserved culture with extremely quiet youth boxed in by imposed taboos and beliefs they literally talked to me for hours.   As I spoke to the crowds of "hungry" youth I could sense the power of change and enlightenment flowing through me to them igniting the atmosphere.

One common theme often expressed regardless of where I went was the outcry for improved women's rights in these countries. PNG has one of the highest rates of gender based violence and rape globally and many of the women are sexually violated in their teen years.

I'll close with this: Whenever you're feeling fearful about your next leap of faith just think of all the lives that will be touched by your act of boldness, namely your own.  Take a deep breath, say a prayer of courage and JUMP!!!  If you start falling remember to spread your wings and soar!!  

For more information and pictures of my South Pacific speaking tour check out my website  www.drjeridyson.com and let me know what you plan on doing to soar in 2015.